We all have them whether they last a day, a week, or a few months, bad days happen to the best of us. And you know what? That’s okay. It’s a normal part of life and you should be having a bad day or two every now and then. As a perfectionist, I find it hard to accept that I can’t always be perfect, or positive, or do the right thing. Some days I get overwhelmed, stressed out, or upset and I just don’t want to look on the bright side. All I want to do is eat Ben & Jerry’s while watching Friends in my pajamas all day (to be fair, I do that even on good days)
If you’re having a bad day, here are some things to remember that can help you embrace your bad days:
Your Emotions Deserve To Be Felt
Sadness, bitterness, vulnerability, anger and any other emotion you may feel on a bad day deserves to be felt. Like all emotions, the only way you can pass through them is to experience them fully and to let yourself completely feel what it is you need to feel. These emotions are not unworthy or too negative to be embraced. With the good comes bad, and growing through such experiences are the very reason these emotions exist!
You Don’t Always Have To Be Positive
You’re in no way expected to be positive 24 hours a day, every day, regardless of what is happening. You don’t always need to look on the bright side, or stay positive when you’re feeling down. There are days where I feel like I should be positive and help lift up those around me, but it’s just not my day. You can’t force yourself to be happy and encouraging at all times. You shouldn’t have to disregard your feelings in fear of looking weak or negative because embracing a bad day and everything that comes with it takes courage! Be sad, cry, and feel what you have to feel.
You’re Doing Your Best
You may not feel like your best is enough which is why you may feel disappointed in yourself, but just remember that you’re doing your best. Things may not be going according to plan- but do they ever?! That’s the thing about life- it never goes the way we planned, and often our grand expectations aren’t met. Be gentle with yourself and remember that you are brave for always trying- you are in no way a failure for trying. Life is unpredictable, and it’s much too short to sweat the small stuff.
Count Your Blessings
When things seem dull, grey or confusing, remember all that is going right. Think of all of the things, people, and memories you’ve been blessed with in this lifetime, and remember that these bad days are fleeting, and pass by just as quickly and suddenly as they came. You’ve had them before and you’ll have them again, but they are only temporary and good things are yet to come!