5 Things To Leave Behind In 2017

2017 moon photography

At the end of each year, I like to look back and reflect on my latest goals, aspirations and memories. 2017 has been filled with new experiences; losses, heartbreak, and the foundation of new, inspiring goals amidst the rubble.

There are many goals and dreams I’d like to pursue and chase this year. But, there are also a few things I’d like to leave behind in 2017. Letting go of what no longer serves your growth in life is just as important as cultivating your goals and dreams. Here’s a list of things that are better left in the past, to make room for new doors:

photography folk 2017

Social Media Habits

I’m definitely guilty of having one or two of these (or maybe a bit more than that). In the last stretch of 2017, I’ve blocked off accounts that I would visit that didn’t make me feel better after visiting them. Instead, I’d leave them feeling depleted, sad and much worse than before. This could be an ex, a page that affects your self esteem, or anything that doesn’t make you feel happy. Most of us spend so much time on social media, so why not fill our feeds with positive and inspiring images?

Desiring Things

One of the most important life lessons I’ve learned this year is to hold off on my desire for things. When I look back on my fondest memories, they hardly ever consist of moments where I  bought something I  wanted.

The memories shared with friends, spontaneous trips exploring new corners of the world, and boundary pushing experiences are what I hold onto. Let go of your desire of things and focus on creating memorable experiences in your life. Those are the moments you’ll be looking back on.

Living in the Future

Whether it’s that perfect beach body, or that dream trip you’re planning- don’t let the future keep you from living in the present. If you spend your days thinking you’ll be happy when you get that one thing, you’ll throw away the days that lay right in front of you.

Often I find that when I finally do get what I was dreaming of, it doesn’t make me as happy as I thought it would have. What are you grateful for today? Seek the beauty within the present and each of your days will be filled with bits of joy.

Waiting For People To Support Your Dream

Let go of waiting for people to accept or support your dream. You are the only one who needs to believe in yourself and your dream for it to manifest into reality. It really is that simple! There will always be the non-believers, or those who don’t want you to succeed at all (yes, these people do exist). Pay them no mind, leave them behind and keep on chasing your dream. At the end of the day, you’ll be the one living it, not them!

Closing The Door

I’ve always been one for encouraging giving second chances and working on relationships and friendships. But, sometimes we need to be reminded of when it’s time to close that door and move on with our lives. Certain relationships and friendships may run their course, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

I’ve learned that with every relationship I’ve lost, I’ve gained something in return. You will always learn something from a friendship or relationship, whether it be about yourself, or simply life in general. Learning to let go when it’s time is not an easy thing to do but sometimes, it’s necessary for our growth.

What are some of the things you’d like to leave behind in 2017? I’d love to hear your aspirations!

  • Reflecting on what to leave behind can be painful, because it makes you think of the things that have made you unhappy. However it is a great idea to reflect on, because we all had things that we wished were a bit different, in order to be happier. Stop waiting on people to support you is a big one – I am a strong believer in the possibility of achieving all your goals by yourself. It makes you stronger and more confident!

    Julia x
    Last Post: Christmas in London | http://juliaspeaksbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/2017/12/lifestyle-christmas-in-london.html

    • Diana Maria

      I couldn’t agree with you more, Julia! It’s definitely important to realize what you can work on for yourself. Thank you for your comment I always love reading experiences from my readers! 🙂

  • marblebeauty

    Really interesting blog post idea. I enjoyed reading this one! It’s made me think about the things I’d like to leave behind this year, and feeling excited for a fresh start! 🙂 xx

    http://marblebeauty.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed the read xx

  • Shannon

    This year has definitely been a transitional year for me, one full of changes. I’m definitely looking forward to next year, but I know that if I want it to be better I need to reflect on the past year. It’s important to leave behind habits, situations, and people that didn’t positively impact your life. That’s what I’ll be doing as the year comes to a close. Thanks for another inspiring post!

    Shann Eileen | http://www.shanneileen.com

    • Diana Maria

      I feel really similarly about the year ahead and about preparing for the year to come. Thank you so much for your comment Shannon!

  • I love this post – I feel like it’s been written by me!! I really do relate to all of these ideas, and this year I’ve had to close the door on friendships that I never thought I would have to, but it’s been for the best. Living for today can be pretty tough, but I’m going to try and stop wishing for the weekend/the future too… Hopefully…

    Lorna
    (www.thedaychaser.com)

    • Diana Maria

      That’s so sweet Lorna, I’m glad you enjoyed the read! It is for the best, and living in the present is a constant work in progress for me too xx

  • This isn’t something I’ve even thought about! But definitely will now.

    • Diana Maria

      Glad you enjoyed Melanie 🙂

  • I’m always excited for your blog posts because you are so wise, honest and positive. Your posts really brighten up my day. Love this so much 💗 xx

    • Diana Maria

      Aw thank you Peta, I am just the same when I come across your new posts! Thanks for reading xx

  • This was such a lovely post Diana, esp the one about waiting for people to support your dreams. I totally needed to read this today so THANK YOU <3 xxx

    http://www.natalieleanne.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you for reading Natalie I’m glad you could resonate! xx

  • The point about people not supporting your dream resonates with me so much! Regardless of what I’m doing at a given point in time, there are always people who either do not understand it or see it as pointless/hopeless. But dreams really do depend on us as opposed to what the rest of the world may think. Loved reading this post! Xx

    Maria | whatismaria.com

    • Diana Maria

      I think we all have to deal with those who do not understand or support us at some point. I hope you do end up following those dreams regardless, thank you for your comment Maria 🙂

  • Kim

    This is such lovely advice. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in social media that I forget to just live. Also, I can be quite materialistic so letting go of wanting things is better for my soul not to mention my wallet. Thanks for these gentle reminders!

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Kim! xx

  • I really needed this. Definitely agree everything on the list especially “Let go of waiting for people to accept or support your dream. You are the only one who needs to believe in yourself and your dream for it to manifest into reality.” Damn, that shot me. Hahaha.

    Thanks for this lovely read.

    T H E A S T R O N
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    • Diana Maria

      Haha thank you Fads, your comment made me smile. I’m happy that you could resonate with this, too 🙂

      • I’m glad it made you smile though..

  • Thanks so much for sharing your insight, Diana. I really loved everything about this post and needed the reminder of “Let go of waiting for people to accept or support your dream.” That is just SO good. You are always such an inspiration <3

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Ashton, you are always so kind! You’re a huge inspiration to me, so that’s such a great compliment to receive 🙂

  • RosieBaillie

    I love these things you’re leaving behind, Diana. I’m definitely feeling living in the future and desiring things. I also really want to work on not constantly looking through my phone when I have one or two seconds spare, or just aimlessly scrolling through Twitter or Instagram.

    • Diana Maria

      Aimlessly scrolling is one of my guilty habits too, hopefully we can work to limit that this year! Thank you for reading Rosie xx

  • What an excellent post, Diana! Love your thoughts! xx

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Kotryna!

  • Courtney Hardy

    I need to leave behind my social media habits for sure. Sometimes it’s just so hard to get off Instagram.
    http://sugarcoatedbears.blogspot.com/

    • Diana Maria

      It really is! Time management with Instagram is tough, but definitely worth it:)

  • Love this amazing post, truly inspiring, thank you for sharing, wish you all the best!!!

    xxx

    http://www.instagram.com/modelonamission.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Nora, same to you 🙂

  • Andrea

    So inspirational, I loved this post!!

    http://justohana.blogspot.com.es

    • Diana Maria

      Thanks!

  • I love this post so much. Very inspiring, thank you. I also really love your photos 🙂
    Clem xx
    http://www.clemloves.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Clementine 🙂

  • I love the idea of leaving things behind ready for the new year. I love the idea of seeking beauty in the present rather than always overthinking about the future, that’s something I’ve done a lot this year and it doesn’t help always worrying about the future. Loved reading this post Diana! x

    Kayleigh | http://www.anenthusiasmfor.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Kayleigh, I think overthinking is also a big one for me too. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Good luck with all of your new year goals!

  • I’m definitely one to dwell on the future and not enjoy now! Need to stop doing that x

    Tamz | http://www.throughneweyesx.com

    • Diana Maria

      Agreed! xx

  • These are all so true, I definetly need to incorprate some of these into my life
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Laura 🙂

  • This is a beautiful post. So much wisdom here. xx

    Madison http://breakfastatmadisons.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thanks Madison xo

  • Thegfguide.com

    Great post! So sad to hear that social media sometimes makes you feel that way and I agree because those things affect us all I think. It’s also so hard to close the door on relationships, but sometimes it’s needed and it’s definitely part of life. Good luck in the new year!

    Marije | thegfguide.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Marije, good luck to you as well! xx

  • This resonates with me so much. All of these I definitely need to collectively work on for the new year. thanks for reminding me 🙂

    Enclothed Cognition

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you for your comment Keri 🙂

  • These tips are all so perfect and relevant to me right now! I neeeed to stop desiring things and focus more of experiences 100%. Looove this post xx

    Georgia Megan

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Georgia, I’m glad you enjoyed reading 🙂

  • Miss Uncover

    Thank you for these 5 things. It opened my eyes and motivated me to work on myslef because I am guilty of most the things
    miss-uncover.blogspot.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you!

  • Great post! It’s always nice to reflect about life before the year ends and pick up important learnings. Thanks for sharing and wishing you another year filled with more vibrant and happy moments to cherish!

    xx Sheryl | http://www.SeguraAndCo.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Sheryl! I hope you have a wonderful year ahead as well 🙂 xx

  • I love this post! I have been clearing my social media lately too – it’s been so much more enjoyable when it’s just full of people and things I love! x

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Jasmin- agreed! It can be a great positive space for the most part if you’d like it to be 🙂

  • honestly, i don’t do yearly bucket list or anything like that but what i’d like to leave behind is participating in social media. i’ve had unpleasant experiences with narrow minded and overly sensitive people on social media who twisted my words and used them against me. social media is becoming more and more toxic nowadays and hopefully in 2018 i can eliminate twitter (because i only use twitter) discussions. as for negativity, i embrace it. i think negativity is part of the life cycle so even if we i want to be positive and happy, i can’t always have that xD

    • Diana Maria

      I’m sorry to hear you’ve had unpleasant experiences on social media, there is a dark side to social media. It is part of life, and I do think you can limit what you see especially on social media. I hope you have better experiences in the coming new year Elise xx

  • Yes! Quit that instagram! It is such a waste of time. I did so myself recently.

    http://www.nynomads.com
    Rent free and living on $100/week in Manhattan

    • Diana Maria

      I’ve lowered my time on social media, and quit a few other platforms, but I love Instagram too much to quit!

  • mairead sullivan

    This post resonated with me so much !! I’ll be using these tips going into 2018.
    Thank you for sharing your honesty girl – and inspiring me !
    Love and light to you sweet soul xox

    http://www.thewanderingmermaids.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I’m glad you could relate to this post Mairead, thank you!

  • I’ve started blocking/removing people from my feed that just brings a negative energy into my life and I feel much better because of it!

    xo, Richel V. | http://www.richelvergara.com

    • Diana Maria

      I think sometimes that’s necessary and if that helps you, good for you for doing what you need to!

  • I really want to focus on living in the present in 2018 too. I spend so much time thinking about what I want to do next that I find it hard to focus on what I’ve achieved now

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I’m the same way! Good luck with your goals for 2018 Stephanie 🙂

  • I need to learn to live in the present as well, we’re always waiting on something to happen, like waiting for the next escape or the next birthday we forget to live in the now and make the most of it! x

    amerzwithlove.com

    • Diana Maria

      It can be a struggle, but is worth working on to live in the present. Thanks for your comment Amita!

  • Really inspiring thoughts, especially regarding friendships. Something it is right to just close the door and like you said, you do learn from every relationship xx

    Lynsey || One More Slice

    • Diana Maria

      Agreed Lynsey, I’m glad you could relate to this post! xx

  • I definitely need to stop living in the future because I’m guilty of that often lately. This was a nice post, I enjoyed reading it!

    http://www.myclusterofthoughts.com/

    • Diana Maria

      Thanks for the love Katherine! xx

  • This year, I’ve been a lot more firm with removing people from social media who would constantly give off really negative vibes, so much so that it would affect my own mood. It made me so much happier after. Not waiting for people to support your dreams is so, so true. Not everyone is going get behind you so it’s important to go after something if it’s something you want. And as for the people who do stay and support, you’ll know that they are the ‘true’ friends. This year has also been the year that I’ve realised that some friendships can’t last forever and that it’s silly of me to think that they can and waste energy salvaging a relationship that is beyond fixing. I’ve taken the positives and what I’ve learnt but now it’s time to move on. Another thing I would love to leave behind is my constant self-deprecation – let’s see how I fare in the coming year!

    • Diana Maria

      Good for you Beverley, I think being conscious of what you see on social media is so important to do. I’ve also found myself letting go of friendships but at the end of the day, those that are worth working on will be there! I wish you all the best with your goals for the coming new year! xo

  • Wonderful blog post! I like the idea of leaving certain things behind. I would like to leave my anxiety and stress levels behind in 2017, haha. Also, I need to leave bad social media habits behind as well. 🙂

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Leta! I definitely have a few of those habits I need to drop as well. Good luck with your goals in 2018!

  • Social media is such a topic, isn’t it? This year I got SO much anxiety from Instagram, I really wasn’t being happy at all, so I decided to ditch it altogether. I took a huge break for months and it really helped me realize that it wasn’t that important, I was wasting a lot of my energy on something so superficial, now I use it a lot more consciously and I’ve met so many other amazing people like you that I’m glad to be able to call friends.
    This is such a good post to read before the new year, I’ll make sure to share it with my friends.
    Here’s to an awesome 2018! xx
    Ana
    http://www.anapicazzo.com

    • Diana Maria

      It really is! I’m so glad you feel the same way, I’ve taken a break from Instagram and it has honestly helped me so much. I felt like I was spending so much time and energy into something that was superficial, and no longer brought me joy.
      I’m so glad we’ve been able to meet as well, using Instagram consciously is so much better!

      Happy 2018 Ana xx

  • Great points! Especially living for the future – I can definitely be a bit guilty of this.

    Yasmin x
    The Sweet Seven Five

  • Shannon

    I really need to focus on living in the present. I find it difficult to not dream of being out of school and more independent, but I know that in the future I might look back and wish I had enjoyed this time more. Thanks for the post!

    Shann Eileen | http://www.shanneileen.com

  • Fashion Blogger Stacie

    Absolutely relate to all of these! ESPECIALLY the social media one, blogging means using social media a lot and it can be so destroying for your mental health. Some really great things you’ve pointed out. Fantastic post, thanks for sharing

    Stacie

    fashionbloggerstacie.com

    xx