You Can’t Be Everything

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There are a million and one things I’d like to do in my lifetime. I have so many passions and dreams that I wish I could pursue- too many to count. The truth is, you can’t be everything.

We live in a society today that’s all about the hustle. Hustle to land that dream job, to buy that dream home and live your dream lifestyle. Being busy is glorified, the busier you are- the better you’re doing.

I put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best at everything. The best friend, the hardest worker, the most supportive daughter- all the while trying to pursue my goals and chase my dreams. It’s a recipe for a burnout.

Overwhelming yourself with pressure to do it all will only leave you exhausted and emotionally drained. If you try to, you might be able to do a lot more, but it won’t be done with the passion and commitment it takes to do something you truly love with your whole heart.

Here’s what I’ve learned about doing it all, and how I’m learning to find balance in the things I’ve committed to pursuing with my soul.

Prioritize What Matters

What’s the one thing you wish you could do, above everything else? That’s your main focus. Take that thing, commit to it, and chase after it. You’ll still find yourself asking why in the world you ever wanted to do it in the first place. It’s never simple, the good things rarely are. Just remember that if it were so easy, everyone would be doing it. I’ve learned that if you love something enough, you’ll do anything in your power to have it and keep it close to you.

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Do That Thing

Don’t wait for today, or for tomorrow, or next week. Start today. Even if it’s a small step, it’s still a step, and it’s one headed in a better direction. It’s really that simple. I can’t count how many hours I’ve spent dreaming and planning what I’d like to do, instead of actually doing things to make it happen. I’d write them all down in a pretty notebook I had just bought for that very occasion, where it would sit in my drawer untouched. If you wait for your dreams to happen to you, they’ll get swept away by someone who made the commitment and dove head first chasing them.

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Reach Out To People Who Inspire You

I’m sure you have your icons, people who inspire you and those who you look up to- we all do. Why not reach out to them and ask them how they did it? If you have questions, or are seeking advice, ask someone who knows the struggle of what you’re pursuing. Recently, I reached out to Erin from Erin Outdoors for advice on how I could stop overthinking my every move.

I wanted to be and do everything, and I was terrified I just didn’t have enough time to do it all. I know I’m only 24, but when your list is never ending like mine, you start to think there’s not enough time in the world to live through it all. Her words inspired me and sent me on a new, more understanding path- one where I felt like I could do what I set out to do if I prioritized my life a little bit, because after all, she did it herself too. Try your luck and connect with others on a similar journey- you might be surprised by what you learn.

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Check In With Yourself

Often times than not, I feel that familiar pang of guilt when I take a day to myself. If I’m not doing anything productive, I often see it as a waste of time. Sometimes, you just need to take a break and it’s absolutely not a waste of a day. There’s no shame in taking a break after working  on your goals and dreams.

If you neglect taking breaks for yourself, you’re not allowing yourself that much needed space to recharge and create again. There are days where we need to slow down the dial of our lives a little bit. It’s only natural. It won’t always be smooth sailing through that ideal, harmonious balance. You’ll have moments where you find yourself tipping and struggling to stay afloat. It’s about knowing when you need that moment to simply breathe, and do nothing else for a while.

Have you ever found yourself trying to be and do everything? I’d love to hear about your experiences and stories.

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  • Loved reading this post Dianna, I resonated with everything and it gave me some little reminders with my own goals/dreams. So true about writing it down in a notebook and not actually doing it! And also checking in with myself- I need to do it more x

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Peta! xx

  • Love the idea of reaching out to those who inspire you! Such a great tip, awesome post 🙂

    Anika | anikamay.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Anika xx

  • I completely loved this post Diana, probably one of my favourite of yours! I’m always hard on myself, and if I have a day off and not working towards my ultimate goal, I feel guilty. But its so important to take a step back and recharge so we can hit those goals even HARDER! xx

    http://www.natalieleanne.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Natalie, you’re so sweet! I think so too, why feel guilty for those days we need? xx

  • Oh this is just perfect, and ever so inspiring. Thank you Diana, I needed some of these words today I really did! I always want to do it all, and I want to do it all right now. Thank you for grounding me <3
    Peta x
    http://www.pe-ta.com

    • Diana Maria

      I’m glad you enjoyed the read Peta 🙂

  • Such a great post Diana. Loved everything about it and also needed to read some of this too. Thank you.

    Nathalie
    http://www.nathalie-alexandra.blogspot.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Nathalie xx

  • Oh definitely, I can relate to so much of this. I’ve always found myself trying to be and do everything, I think it all stems from not having a clear path to what I wanted to do after leaving school. I loved this advice, I think prioritising what really matters most has worked for me so much and taking one step at a time. Wonderful post Diana xx

    Kayleigh | http://www.anenthusiasmfor.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I’ve definitely been in that spot of not knowing and being on an unclear path. One step at a time! Thanks for reading Kayleigh xx

  • Reading this made me feel so much more inspired – thank you! I’m definitely guilty of just planning, dreaming and scribbling things down in my notebook, and I need to start being better at DOING, too. I just need to start!

    Beautiful post. x

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Laura, I’m so glad you could resonate with this post 🙂

  • RosieBaillie

    Wonderful tips, Diana. Like you, I’m no stranger to finding myself on the verge of a meltdown because I feel like there’s not enough time in the world. You’re spot on about starting now, too. I recently listened to (and I actually started re-listening to it) You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, and the main thing she says is we have to go from wanting to change our life to changing our life. Just go for it, why put it off?

    • Diana Maria

      I’m definitely going to check out Jen Sincero, thank you for mentioning her! I’m always for finding inspiring people! Thank you for reading Rosie 🙂

  • Yara Mel Rozaay

    Such a great post, Diana! I’m glad I no longer glorify being busy. It’s important to acknowledge the present and what direction we are going! I’m constantly checking with myself and no longer feel guilty for spending and hour or two doing nothing. To simply breathe is also necessary 🙂
    For the long term I also decided what it is that I reaaally want to accomplish because this lifetime is not enough to do and be everything !

    http://www.desiringsme.com/4-vows-24/

    • Diana Maria

      Thanks Yara! Agreed, I think feeling guilty for taking a break is something to work on since we deserve that time xx

  • Kay (shoesandglitter)

    This is a lovely tips hun, full of really useful tips. 🙂 I used to really overwhelm myself with everything, and care far too much about things that didn’t really warrant it, but I have noticed that the older I get, the more laid back I become. I still get caught up in things sometimes a little too easily, but not as much as I used to. And I agree completely, taking a break every so often is so important!! Thanks for sharing this lovely post, hun. xoxo

    Kay
    http://shoesandglitter.com

    • Diana Maria

      I think it’s great that with age we learn to be more laid back and learn what truly matters and what doesn’t. Thank you for your kind words Kay!

  • This was such a great read! It really hit home, I always try to do everything and it SUCKS — the struggle is real.

    xo | Cindy Elena
    http://www.boringclothes.com

    • Diana Maria

      It definitely is, it’s not easy finding that balance! Thank you for reading 🙂

  • I loved reading this. beautiful photos
    Wonder Cottage

  • What a lovely post and enjoyed every single one of your tips! It’s so important to prioritise and remember you do not need to do everything, if we try to do so we’ll end up burning out and there’s absolutely no point in that.

    Taking some you time is so important, enjoy and embrace every moment in your life, the busy times and the relaxing ones (usually the best ones)

    Laura xo
    http://www.shehearts.net

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Laura, it really is important to take that time so that we don’t burn out xx

  • Such a lovely, motivating post. <3

    Hannah | Wild At Heart

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Hannah 🙂

  • I so needed to read this today. My to-do list is completely out of hand, I’ve been trying to push myself and not have breaks for weeks now and I’m just exhausted. Today I’m going to switch off a bit, relax, and just tune in to what I really want to do

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I hope you enjoy your much needed break, Stephanie! xx

  • I feel really motivated and inspired after reading this :’) there’s so much I want to be in life that I feel too pressured and tired. Sometimes, we have to realize that we can’t be everything.

    yuki, solivagantic

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Yuki 🙂

  • Hustle hard and work hard is the new motto. I agree, if you are too busy it may burn you out. But if you found what you love, want to really do, none of all this matters.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

    • Diana Maria

      I think so too, once you find what you’d like to pursue, that’s what matters most xx

  • Loved this post, I give myself too many breaks and end up getting nothing done so I really need to sort that out haha!

    http://www.lydstaple.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Lydia! I tend to do that along with procrastinating, it’s all a work in progress! 🙂

  • I feel like I can relate to everything that you mentioned in this post. I feel like from time to time, we all spread ourselves too finely and feel the pressure!

    Danielle xx
    http://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

    • Diana Maria

      I’m glad you found this relatable Danielle! xx

  • This post is so relatable, hustling is definitely important nowadays. Something I need to get on because I procrastinate a lot haha. But when you’re surrounded by the right people and are motivated it definitely helps x

    amerzwithlove.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Amita, glad you enjoyed the read!

  • In regards to long to do lists and things, I heard someone say recently “don’t be afraid of work that is never done”. And it’s something I keep repeating to myself. Sometimes my to do list seems long and my goals so far off completing. But as they say life is in the journey and not the destination. If we never reach that destination it doesn’t mean the journey isn’t worth it. Our to do lists will never be done will they? Once we cross one thing off we’re on to the next! We shouldn’t let that stress us out! For how boring would our lives be if we reached our goals and then stopped!

    • Diana Maria

      Exactly, we will always have things we wish to do our goals we want to achieve, I think the journey towards that is what life is all about. Thanks so much for your comment Melanie! xx

  • This was a lovely read, that I totally agree with. We have to do so much and excel at everything, but the pressure is so high – and clearly doesn’t make us happy. Sometimes I like to take a step back and think that all I am doing right now is enough and that nobody can be perfect and do it all. The main thing is to enjoy it, otherwise there is no point in doing what we’re doing – it has to make us feel happy and proud!

    Julia x
    http://www.juliaspeaksbeauty.blogspot.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I think so too, Julia! The most important thing is that what we do makes us happy and helps us grow in life. Thank you for reading 🙂

  • I totally feel the same way and always put so much pressure on myself
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

    • Diana Maria

      Agreed- I’m glad you could relate Laura! xx

  • Andrea

    I love this post. Is exactly what I needed to read, because Im constantly putting pressure in myself, and I get exhausted.
    thank you so much for sharing!

    https://justohana.blogspot.com.es

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Andrea, I’m glad you enjoyed the post 🙂

  • Hillory Renkema

    Totally love this post girl! It’s so important to remember that you can do anything, but not everything!!

    xo,

    H

    http://firsttimethings.com/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Hillory! xx

  • Alexandra Roman
    • Diana Maria

      Thank you xx

  • Samantha

    Great tips! It is true we are all striving to be as busy as possible it is sometimes hard to stop and realize what is a priority.
    X
    Samantha
    http://www.thenewyorkblonde.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Samantha!

  • Ugh it’s so true. I HATE that about busy people. It seems so overly glorified. Like what about being healthy and having a balance? No one is glorified for that. I guess everyone just loves a good story! I do try to do A LOT. But I sort of can’t sit still either haha. So I love having full days planned with a full schedule. 🙂

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    • Diana Maria

      I’ve definitely found myself glorifying being busy when it was much too overwhelming for me at times. Balance is key, but it’s nice having a busy schedule as I love staying active too! Thank you for sharing Emily 🙂

  • Olga Federico

    Thanks for the tipps!Great post:-)

    http://www.lostindaydreams.com/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Olga 🙂

  • The first paragraph about trying to do everything and being on burnout mode couldn’t describe me anymore accurately at the moment. I really find juggling a 9-5, blog, relationship and friends really difficult at times and constantly feel tired or unwell. I am looking forward to taking a break over Christmas and in the new year really narrow down where I want to take my blog to free up some of my time. I have so many interests and sometimes I need to rein it in and like you say really focus on the important things.
    Thanks for sharing these tips Diana, I will be taking actions!
    Jaz xoxo
    http://www.thelifeofasocialbutterfly.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I feel the same way much of the time, it leads to feeling so tired and worn down! I hope you have a wonderful and refreshing holiday. Good luck with narrowing down your path and finding that time for yourself Jasmine, thanks for reading!

  • This is such a beautiful post and really great tips! Thanks so much for sharing girl xx

    http://www.anacelinelabod.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Ana! xx