There are a million and one things I’d like to do in my lifetime. I have so many passions and dreams that I wish I could pursue- too many to count. The truth is, you can’t be everything.
We live in a society today that’s all about the hustle. Hustle to land that dream job, to buy that dream home and live your dream lifestyle. Being busy is glorified, the busier you are- the better you’re doing.
I put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best at everything. The best friend, the hardest worker, the most supportive daughter- all the while trying to pursue my goals and chase my dreams. It’s a recipe for a burnout.
Overwhelming yourself with pressure to do it all will only leave you exhausted and emotionally drained. If you try to, you might be able to do a lot more, but it won’t be done with the passion and commitment it takes to do something you truly love with your whole heart.
Here’s what I’ve learned about doing it all, and how I’m learning to find balance in the things I’ve committed to pursuing with my soul.
Prioritize What Matters
What’s the one thing you wish you could do, above everything else? That’s your main focus. Take that thing, commit to it, and chase after it. You’ll still find yourself asking why in the world you ever wanted to do it in the first place. It’s never simple, the good things rarely are. Just remember that if it were so easy, everyone would be doing it. I’ve learned that if you love something enough, you’ll do anything in your power to have it and keep it close to you.
Do That Thing
Don’t wait for today, or for tomorrow, or next week. Start today. Even if it’s a small step, it’s still a step, and it’s one headed in a better direction. It’s really that simple. I can’t count how many hours I’ve spent dreaming and planning what I’d like to do, instead of actually doing things to make it happen. I’d write them all down in a pretty notebook I had just bought for that very occasion, where it would sit in my drawer untouched. If you wait for your dreams to happen to you, they’ll get swept away by someone who made the commitment and dove head first chasing them.
Reach Out To People Who Inspire You
I’m sure you have your icons, people who inspire you and those who you look up to- we all do. Why not reach out to them and ask them how they did it? If you have questions, or are seeking advice, ask someone who knows the struggle of what you’re pursuing. Recently, I reached out to Erin from Erin Outdoors for advice on how I could stop overthinking my every move.
I wanted to be and do everything, and I was terrified I just didn’t have enough time to do it all. I know I’m only 24, but when your list is never ending like mine, you start to think there’s not enough time in the world to live through it all. Her words inspired me and sent me on a new, more understanding path- one where I felt like I could do what I set out to do if I prioritized my life a little bit, because after all, she did it herself too. Try your luck and connect with others on a similar journey- you might be surprised by what you learn.
Check In With Yourself
Often times than not, I feel that familiar pang of guilt when I take a day to myself. If I’m not doing anything productive, I often see it as a waste of time. Sometimes, you just need to take a break and it’s absolutely not a waste of a day. There’s no shame in taking a break after working on your goals and dreams.
If you neglect taking breaks for yourself, you’re not allowing yourself that much needed space to recharge and create again. There are days where we need to slow down the dial of our lives a little bit. It’s only natural. It won’t always be smooth sailing through that ideal, harmonious balance. You’ll have moments where you find yourself tipping and struggling to stay afloat. It’s about knowing when you need that moment to simply breathe, and do nothing else for a while.
Have you ever found yourself trying to be and do everything? I’d love to hear about your experiences and stories.