“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom“- Mary Ferguson. For much of my life, the idea of being alone has always been one that I’ve feared. It wasn’t until this past year that I realized it was my fear of being alone that was causing me to stay idle and live a life I no longer enjoyed.
Upon realizing that living in fear was actually the cause of my unhappiness, I made a vow to do the things I feared in hopes of changing my life for the better. As I broke free from relationships and friendships that no longer brought positivity into my life I made room for those that did bring me happiness and joy. I began to surround myself with the things that I loved- my hobbies, my talents, my passions and inspirations. For some time I felt lonely and isolated from my comfortable past as I had less people to talk to and confide in.
At first, this felt uncomfortable and frightening but with time my isolation and loneliness turned into self discovery, realization and happiness. If you are searching for a deeper understanding of yourself and wish to start a new- know that solitude awaits you, and even though this may be scary to think about; on that other side of fear lies freedom.
If you’re looking for that push to change your life and embrace solitude to find yourself, here are some benefits I’ve found from taking time to myself:
You gain a clearer mind– it becomes easier to think clearly and remind yourself what you truly want
Self-discovery is inevitable– with more time for yourself, you will learn more about who you are as a person
You become better to those around you– as you learn to accept the real you, your relationships with others improve as you become a more aware and content version of yourself
You face your fears head on– once you learn that solitude is not so much a scary concept as it is a gift, you will feel more encouraged to face other fears you hold onto
You can find happiness and self-love in almost any situation if you work towards this goal. Solitude is one of the many ways I found my own inner happiness and peace, which I encourage everyone to try if they are feeling overwhelmed or inauthentic to their true self.
Have you ever found peace within solitude in your life? I’d love to hear about your experiences below!