Finding Peace in Solitude

imageUltimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom“- Mary Ferguson. For much of my life, the idea of being alone has always been one that I’ve feared. It wasn’t until this past year that I realized it was my fear of being alone that was causing me to stay idle and live a life I no longer enjoyed.

Upon realizing that living in fear was actually the cause of my unhappiness, I made a vow to do the things I feared in hopes of changing my life for the better. As I broke free from relationships and friendships that no longer brought positivity into my life I made room for those that did bring me happiness and joy. I began to surround myself with the things that I loved- my hobbies, my talents, my passions and inspirations. For some time I felt lonely and isolated from my comfortable past as I had less people to talk to and confide in.

At first, this felt uncomfortable and frightening but with time my isolation and loneliness turned into self discovery, realization and happiness. If you are searching for a deeper understanding of yourself and wish to start a new- know that solitude awaits you, and even though this may be scary to think about; on that other side of fear lies freedom.

If you’re looking for that push to change your life and embrace solitude to find yourself, here are some benefits I’ve found from taking time to myself:

You gain a clearer mind– it becomes easier to think clearly and remind yourself what you truly want

Self-discovery is inevitable– with more time for yourself, you will learn more about who you are as a person

You become better to those around you– as you learn to accept the real you, your relationships with others improve as you become a more aware and content version of yourself

You face your fears head on– once you learn that solitude is not so much a scary concept as it is a gift, you will feel more encouraged to face other fears you hold onto

You can find happiness and self-love in almost any situation if you work towards this goal. Solitude is one of the many ways I found my own inner happiness and peace, which I encourage everyone to try if they are feeling overwhelmed or inauthentic to their true self.

Have you ever found peace within solitude in your life? I’d love to hear about your experiences below!

With love,

Diana

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  • lovely lovely post!xx

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you! xo

  • Loved this, and discovering yourself is so so important!

    Annabel ♥
    Mascara & Maltesers

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Annabel, I agree it really is! xo

  • This is such a nice post! I love the picture too, I can’t get enough of those trees this Summer, so pretty! I think you’re completely right, I’ve made the same decision over the past year and a half and only wish I’d have realised this sooner! Of course having loads of friends and people to talk to/hang out with can be good, but I’ve found it’s much better and ultimately makes me happier to rather be with myself or a select few, than be surrounded with a bunch of people who don’t actually care about me or bring any positivity to my life. I’d take quality over quantity any day, life is way too short to not enjoy it or do everything you can to be happy! Lovely read 🙂

    X Gemma
    http://www.simplygemmalouise.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I completely agree with quality over quantity and think that’s so important to know, but also takes a while to understand! I’m glad you’ve found what makes you happy, it’s a blessing to have a few good close friends in your life! xo

  • Itz Neena&Nique

    finding yourself is a really good thing and so far thats what im doing :/

    • Diana Maria

      That’s great I wish you the best of luck on your journey!

  • This is such an inspiring post! I often find myself doing these tactics too! I think its really important that we learn to discover ourselves independently! And I’m still doing so, haha! Keep up the lovely posts! <3

    xo
    http://www.missmunar.com/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you love! Keep on discovering! xo

  • What a lovely and inspirational post! I’ve just come back from my year abroad in Spain, and I’ve learnt so much about myself in the past 8 months.

    I’ve just nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award

    http://suitcasesandsmoothies.blogspot.co.uk/2015/06/the-versatile-blogger-award.html

    Emma x

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Emma! I recently came back from Europe too and can say the same! I’m glad you were able to find the true value in travelling! xo

  • Diana, this post really hit home for me as I’ve had similar thoughts as you the past few years of my life. It wasn’t until I started traveling alone that I began to realize that I was worthy of my own friendship. Solitude taught me how to have a more loving and authentic relationship with myself which allowed me to form more genuine relationships with others. I hope you feel the same 🙂

    Looking forward to keeping in touch with you and your blog,
    Tee

    http://www.rotten-one.com

    • Diana Maria

      That’s so wonderful that you were able to discover these things through travel! After returning from a solo trip to Europe I can definitely say that I feel the same way and am so lucky to have learned such valuable lessons! xo

  • Karo Tockhorn

    Really inspiring post ! 🙂
    I’ve really been enjoying reading your blog lately!

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you love! xo

  • Totally agree! all too often we don’t realise the importance of being comfortable alone in your own skin. If you think about it the first thing people will do when alone is re-connect, they’ll go straight back on social media or their phones etc. so important to be at one with yourself regularly I think! x

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    • Diana Maria

      I completely agree Emma, such important points to remember to find that balance! xo

  • aw i adore this post 🙂 Thanks for that

    xx Sabrina | http://www.gypsytan.co

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Sabrina, I’m glad you enjoyed it! xo

  • Chloe Barnes

    Lovely post!! <3 inspiring!

    Chloe xx
    http://chloebee1.blogspot.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Chloe! xo

  • Yousra

    This is a very inspiring and lovely post! I love it
    It’s great that you broke free from friendships that didn’t bring positivity in your life

    Yousra | http://www.mystictales.co

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you! xo

  • Artika

    This is such an inspiring post! I used to use these steps too but now that I’m working (and barely have time for myself), getting rid of all the negative energy just seems natural because I just tell myself that I’m too busy for any thing that doesn’t want to be in my life. Good job on the lovely post and I’m glad that you’ve found your road to self discovery 🙂

    Artika
    http://whuddupartix.blogspot.sg/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Artika! That’s great to hear you’ve been able to let go of negativity as well!

  • Great post babe!!

    xx Sabrina | http://www.gypsytan.co

  • Rachel Marie

    Such a lovely post!

    Rachel Coco

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you love!

  • I have found peace in solitude, I like spending time alone where I get to do anything I want without compromising with what other people want to do 🙂 of course, I love being with friends and family too. It’s all about finding the perfect balance

    Charlotte Harvs | Blog

    • Diana Maria

      I completely agree, balance is such an important element to embrace! xo

  • ophelia murphy

    Diana, I have nominated you to do my Summer Bucket List Tag! Follow this link to find out more: http://shutupophelia.blogspot.co.uk/2015/07/my-summer-bucket-list-tag.html

    I’m looking forward to reading your summer bucket list! Let me know when you’ve done it so I can check it out.

    Happy summer!

    Ophelia xx

    http://www.shutupophelia.blogspot.co.uk