As the first month of 2016 soon comes to a finish, it’s time to reflect on what we should hold on to, and what’s better left behind in the past. Certain habits can either make or break us and although it’s easier said than done, it’s better to break those bad habits before they break us. Here are a list of 5 things to leave behind this year:
Comparing Yourself to Others
We’ve all done it. You compare yourself to someone else who you think has a better job, better looks, a better relationship and all around a better life. Social media plays a large role in portraying a certain image, so it’s really important to remember that every image has a story you haven’t heard behind it. We’re all guilty of comparing ourselves to others at times, but in the end this will only lead you to feeling like a failure and someone who is unworthy, which is not at all true! Instead of focusing on others, try and limit how much time you spend on social media and use that time to invest in yourself. You are only working to be better than the person you were yesterday, and only that person.
Living in the Past
“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence” I have this quote taped up to my inspiration board above my desk so I can look at it before the start of every day. It’s simple, but much more difficult to actually live out. It’s okay to look back at the past at times. The past is full of lessons we’ve learned and moments we can look back on to help us avoid the same mistakes. What’s not okay is looking back at the past and dwelling on past mistakes, waiting for the worst to come again, and forgetting we ourselves create the present moments in our lives. Whenever you start thinking negatively about the past- make a conscious effort to stop yourself. Grab a notebook, a pen, and start writing down what you plan on doing differently. Write the positive outcomes of your past, and the positive opportunities and dreams that lay ahead of you. It might sound silly, but seeing these things in print will help you see the positive side of those negative thoughts.
Giving Into Fear
Whether you’re afraid of being alone, following the career or life path that’s true to you, or starting over- whatever it is, don’t let fear dictate your decisions. If you find that fear is influencing the way you think about life and how you make decisions, try this. Think about what it is that scares you. Now, if you could remove that factor out of the equation- would you still be reluctant to do what ever it is you’re dreaming of? Is it still something you honestly want to pursue? If the answer is yes, then know that we’re all afraid of something and if there’s something that deeply frightens you- that’s often the one thing you should do.