With the New Year finally sprung upon us, it’s time to ask yourself a very important question. How can you make 2017 the year of you? We’ve all set goals for new year’s in the past hoping for fresh starts and new beginnings (new year, new me, right?) but it isn’t always as simple to make that a reality.
This year is the first year I truly decided to make this year about bettering myself. I’ve learned that working on yourself isn’t always about doing the things you want to do, but it’s about doing what’s best for yourself. It’s about being afraid but pursuing your dreams regardless It’s about not letting past failures dictate your future before you take that leap of faith.
Let Go Of Being Ready
The most important thing I’ve learned is that you will never be ready. As much planning as I’ve done to make sure that everything in my life goes perfectly according to plan, sometimes it’s just not meant to.
While living out West in the mountains, I constantly planned what I was going to do, weeks and months in advance instead of just living in the moment. Half of the time, all of my plans would self implode right in front of my eyes and leave me completely lost. Life has a plan of its own, one that brings spontaneous and unexplained changes in to the course of our lives. All we can do is get swept up away by the uncertainty of life and ultimately realize that this messy, wonderfully unpredictable whirlwind is our life.
New Year, New You?
When the clock struck midnight and I rung in the New Years overlooking fireworks colouring the sky, I wanted more than anything to start again. I wanted to put the past behind me and become an entirely new person with a clean slate. The truth is, you should never overlook or belittle your journey in such a way.
Behind all of the mistakes, breakdowns, and challenges there are moments of strength, and growth. You didn’t get here by accident. Without those breakdowns and difficult times, you wouldn’t be where you are today. Even if you aren’t where you want to be right now, you’ve acquired so much strength through the hardships you’ve faced which will only help you get to where you want to be.
It’s Okay To Not Know
Do you ever see friends or people you know that seem completely in their element? They’re working their dream job, crushing their goals, all the while looking fabulous doing it? I’ll tell you a secret- I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life, and it terrifies me.
And you want to know what else? It’s okay. It’s okay not to know what you want to do, or even what field you want to work in. There is so much pressure these days to find your muse, study and get a career in your field.
Take the time to try different things you’re interested in. If you have that feeling in the pit of your stomach about something- that, I know I want this feeling, then don’t let anything stop you. For years I’ve wanted to pursue journalism and writing, but the fear of unsteady work and lack of jobs has held me at a standstill.
Give Yourself Credit
On the days where it feels like you’ve failed, that you’re back at square one and can’t do anything right (trust me, we all have those days) give yourself credit for the things you’ve done right. It’s easy to fill our heads with all of our shortcomings and mistakes- to go over them like film repeating over and over again in our minds.
So when these days come, combat the negative with the positive. Sure, you may not have gotten that dream job- but you were brave enough to take the chance to apply. You may not be exactly where you want to be right this moment, but you’re on the journey and the road is ahead of you.
“Some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default.” -J.K. Rowling