Old Ways Won’t Open New Doors

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As I was driving along my road trip across Canada, I passed by a sign that caught my eye. It had the words, “Old ways won’t open new doors” etched onto it in bold, capital letters. For the rest of my drive, that quote stuck to my mind like a feeling I couldn’t shake. I pictured that sign as I drove through the provinces that led me home.

Taking risks outside of your comfort zone is hard. Familiarity and routine can bring us the comfort we search for in the chaotic throws of our lives. But if we’re looking for new opportunities and change, sometimes comfort is the very thing we have to let go of.

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There have been countless times I’ve found myself following along the same pathways in my life, expecting a totally different result. It could be in my relationships, my work, my personal goals- I thought I could stick to my old ways and still find change along the way. Needless to say, it never happened! It was only when I began to trust myself and really work to change my old habits that life began to change with me.

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Trust Yourself

They say trust is one of the most important traits of a healthy relationship. This includes your relationship with yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, not many others will either. You know yourself, and your intuition is one of the most reliable voices you can listen too. When my intuition would speak up, I used to  listen to others instead of my own inner voice. Often times, I’d be left only to find myself wondering why I ever doubted myself in the first place.

“I know myself. I trust myself”

It Takes Time

All good things take time, and although I can be patient with a lot of things, I’m often the least patient when it comes to myself. If you’ve been doing something a certain way for years, it will take time to step outside of your comfort zone and routine to make a lasting change- and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself and you will begin to see the change easing into your life just as it is meant to.

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There Is No End Destination

Working on oneself is a lifelong commitment. We never stop growing, learning or changing. I used to think that if I  improved on myself as much as I could, I would reach a place where I was happy with myself- my end destination. In reality, there is no such place. We cannot accept ourselves if we’re in belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with us. Self acceptance begins today, right here in this moment.

Use Kind Words

I never knew what a deep impact my self-talk had on the way I felt about myself until recently. It felt, and still does at times feel strange to say positive things to myself. All it takes is a few positive words; “I can do this. I am strong enough, I trust myself. I am good enough.” If it feels awkward to say these things to yourself, then kind words are just what you need.

 

Have you ever had trouble changing your old ways and embracing change?

 

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  • Kim

    What a beautiful quote! As a perfectionist, I always feel the need to improve myself, so it’s hard to think that there is no end destination, but you are totally right! Like you said, we all need to embrace change, because whether you like it or not, it’ll happen. Thanks for the inspiration!

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Kim! I’m a perfectionist myself, so I know what you mean. I’m glad you could take something from this 🙂

  • Amanda

    Those pictures are so poetic and beautiful! I think people should always strive to better themselves and open new doors.

    https://styledwithamanda.blogspot.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Amanda! xx

  • These are beautiful & truthful words! It truly is important to know yourself & trust in your capability. :]

    // itsCarmen.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Carmen, I couldn’t agree more 🙂

  • So beautiful! So awesome that you got to visit Bleu Lavande on your road trip. I live in Toronto and still haven’t been out there yet. Sigh! The photos are beautiful!

    xx, mel
    http://melinspired.com/amazon-beauty-must-haves-under-20/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Mel, it’s gorgeous I hope you get to see it soon it’s definitely worth it! xx

  • This was such an inspiring post. Going out of our comfort can be sometimes a bit daunting but it definitely is a way for us all to grow.

    Nathalie
    http://www.nathalie-alexandra.blogspot.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Nathalie! xx

  • What a great and inspiring post! The tips that you gave are so important, especially the one about there being no end destination. For the longest time I would strive for perfection and for happiness and eventually I realised that happiness is in the moment and not really a state you can create. Now that I’m not trying to reach happiness I’m actually experiencing it more. xx

    113thingstosay.com

    • Diana Maria

      I’m glad you’ve had a similar experience, so much changes when you stop striving for the end destination! Thanks for reading Mira xx

  • This is such a great post, and it’s so inspiring. I went back to uni a couple of years ago, and I’m about to start a masters degree. It was difficult for me to make the decision to leave my job at the time, because I loved everyone I worked with and it was my comfort zone, but I’m so glad I did.

    • Diana Maria

      Good for you for taking the leap of faith and following what was right for you! Thank you Rosie I’m glad you stopped by xx

  • What a lovely quote and well written post Diana, being kind and believing in ourselves is so important for our well being. We shouldn’t be so quick to bring our selves down but always be learning and pushing ourselves.

    Hanh | hanhabelle

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Hanh, I think so too and I’m glad you agree 🙂

  • Molly

    I LOVE that quote. Such an inspiring post. Thank you.

    Molly | https://www.eyeconicsociety.co.uk/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Molly xx

  • That door is so neat, beautiful photos
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Laura, it’s my favorite part of the lavender field!

  • AngeliePangilinan

    These are such well-taken photographs! Thank you for reminding me to trust myself. 🙂

    Angelie // Shein Paddle Brush Set Review

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Angelie! xx

  • wow, your writing is really beautiful- you have such a way with words and these photos are stunning and so creative! That quote really gets you thinking.

    http://www.thewhimsicalwildling.com/

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Eloise, that is such a sweet thing to say! I’m glad you enjoyed the post 🙂

  • What a pretty door with such a smart quote! It’s a big reminder to myself to shake it up and try a bunch of different things!

    Characters & Carry-ons

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Joyce! I’m glad you enjoyed the post xx

  • What a lovely quote to go by! I’ve made a few different decisions in life but I like to think that these things always happen for a reason! 😀

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Hannah! I’d like to think the same as well, I believe that to be true! xx

  • Yes- I always think change is so scary, depending on what kind of lifestyle change it is. But in time, I get used to it and appreciate why I needed a push in the right direction.

    “Self acceptance begins today, right here in this moment”- I love that so much and I definitely need to tell myself that each day! Thank you for the inspiration beautiful girl! xx

    • Diana Maria

      It really is, especially in the beginning! Thank you so much for your comment Peta, your blog is so inspiring xx

  • How dreamy are these pics! Totally the style I LOVE <3
    Happy Friday 😀
    Olivia
    http://www.oliviaponcelet.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Olivia! I hope you had a wonderful weekend 🙂

  • the photography is just beautiful and its so true. we get stuck in the same routines and it can be so hard to break out but its so rewarding.
    ❤︎

    http://www.elenaisabelle.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Elena! I’m lucky to have lovely friends who take great photos. It definitely is so rewarding xx

  • Kiri Yanchenko

    I love love love your shoot location.
    That door is great. Is it an art piece?
    Things that are challenging do take time. I have to remember that.
    I am busy starting a new project and it has taken ages.
    Thanks so much for this post – it really reminded me that the reason I am so burned out is because new and challenging things are hard and they do take time.

    Kiri
    Set to Glow
    http://www.settoglow.com.au

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Kiri! It’s one of the staples of the farm, I’m not sure why it’s there but it’s a beautiful piece! I wish you all the best with your project Kiri! xx

  • Such an important lesson to learn – and a hard one. I love the door in the lavendar field – so gorgeous! x

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Jasmin! 🙂

  • Monia Cagnazzo

    wow that’s really an inspirational post! the door looks so awesome in the middle of the field. :3

    xx Monia ♡
    http://www.moniacagnazzo.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Monica! 🙂