What do you do when all you want is to be positive, but life doesn’t seem to want to head down that road just yet? Whether it’s with your job, your relationship or how you feel about yourself- you’ve been in a slump and can’t seem to get inspired enough to climb out.
A few months ago I felt stuck. I felt stuck in a place I no longer loved, felt as though my career was at a standstill and that my life wasn’t going where I wanted it to go (if anywhere at all). My dream of living somewhere I thought I would love was just that- a dream, and reality was much more sobering and different from what I had imagined. So, what did I do? Did I summon the inspiration to lift myself up and get my act together? No. At least not right away.
Push Being Positive Aside
My first piece of advice might sound contradicting, but it’s impossible to be positive all the time (not to mention exhausting!) If you’re feeling low or defeated, you’re allowed to give yourself some time to feel that way. You don’t have to pick yourself up and put on an act so that everyone around you thinks you’re doing well. I know I post positive quotes and photos here at My Lovelier Days whenever I get the chance, but there are times where I feel anything but optimistic. During those times, I do my best to take a break from posting and try not to mask my emotions. The only way for the feelings to pass is for them to make their way through you, which in turn leaves you in a different place than where you began.
Be Honest With Yourself
Take a moment to sit with yourself and be honest. Do you know why you’re feeling the way you are? Instead of thinking about all of the ways you have failed or gone wrong in life, try to think about what you would like to change. If you could change things, what would you do differently? It’s easy to tell yourself you’re not good enough, not smart enough, not enough. But that kind of talk rarely inspires anyone to move forward. Rather than looking at what you don’t have, think about it as finding things you’d like to work on and improve, or have more of. Everyone starts somewhere, right?
Stay Away From Social Media
This is a big one. Have you ever noticed that everyone on social media is having the best time of their lives all the time? It’s rare that I ever pass a post with a gloomy photo and a caption of how difficult or rough someone’s day was. So, have a social media detox. People want you to see what they want you to see. We put our best sides out for the world to see, but don’t be fooled into thinking the dark sides don’t exist. They’re just not as celebrated. Use your time to read, step out into nature, cook- anything that makes you happy and let go of the idea that you have to post your happy memory for it to be seen and become a reality. Just do what you love for you.
Read This List
Have you ever felt that everyone your age or younger has an amazing career and is reaching their goals, while you sit in limbo? Read this list. I know it helped me when I was in a tough spot in life! Life isn’t a competition, or a race. There may be some people who are your age and are crushing their career goals- but we all grow and go through life at different paces. That’s what makes it such a unique and interesting experience. Don’t rush yourself or feel pressure to be who you think you should be. It’s okay to not even know who you are yet. Enjoy finding what you love and finding yourself through the process.