I’m going to share a little secret with you- I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing. Really. There might be a rough drafted plan somewhere in the midst of the chaos that is my life, but more often than not, life has a plan of it’s own. And you want to know what else? That’s okay, because I trust myself.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. There’s no magic formula or secret answer that will get you to where you need to be. Your map is your intuition and for the most part, your intuition is more of a quiet whisper than a bold voice.
“The thing I really want to emphasize is, I didn’t have a choice. I didn’t have a choice . . . the dream is something you never knew was going to come into your life. Dreams always come from behind you, not right between your eyes. It sneaks up on you. But when you have a dream, it doesn’t often come at you screaming in your face, “This is who you are, this is what you must be for the rest of your life.”
Sometimes a dream almost whispers. And I’ve always said to my kids, the hardest thing to listen to—your instincts, your human personal intuition—always whispers; it never shouts. Very hard to hear. So you have to every day of your lives be ready to hear what whispers in your ear; it very rarely shouts. And if you can listen to the whisper, and if it tickles your heart, and it’s something you think you want to do for the rest of your life, then that is going to be what you do for the rest of your life, and we will benefit from everything you do.” -Steven Spielberg.
Since coming across this quote, I’ve come to realize that the dream isn’t always so obvious. You don’t just get struck by inspiration and realize, this is what I’m going to do. What it comes down to is having the courage to trust yourself in the midst of the unknown.
Sit With Yourself
One of the most important things for me on this journey has been to sit with my own thoughts. There have been days where I’ve questioned myself and wondered if I was thinking straight at all. In the beginning, when you’re just scratching at the surface of your dream, you’ll be thinking about it a lot. There will be people who will tell you how silly and unrealistic you’re being.
If you haven’t yet felt the presence of what it is you want to follow, it’s easy to get discouraged by those who don’t believe in your dream. You will question yourself and your abilities. Let yourself sit with those questions, doubts, and dreams.
People Will Doubt You
Oh yeah, people will definitely doubt you. There will be those who might not want you to fail, but who don’t believe in your dream (they won’t be scared to tell you it, either). There will also be those who do want you to fail, and don’t want you to believe in your dream, either. When all else fails, trust yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else. When I listen to others and find myself unhappy with the outcome, I feel worse than if I had listened to myself and had imagined a different outcome. At least I had listened and trusted myself, rather than follow someone else’s path.
It’s your dream, you’ll be the one living with it- no one else. Don’t let others dissuade you from doing what you know is right for you. The regret of not trying at all is so much stronger than that of trying and failing. You never really fail if you try.
Your Failures Will Make You
You will try things, and not all of them will work out the way you had imagined. An obstacle, a failure, a setback- these are all lessons and whether they benefit you or bring you down is up to how you react to them. It’s all in your hands. It takes time, determination and consistent hard work to reach a goal. There have been plenty of times where I’ve thought I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, or that my work was no longer worth creating.
You will have your days of doubt, but don’t let them stop you. Keep going. Trust the journey. A failure doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough. It’s a challenge to overcome, one meant to make you stronger. If you love what you’re doing, then it absolutely is worth pursuing.
There’s No End Destination
When you have a dream, it’s not like there’s a destination to reach, and once you find your way there, you’ll be happy and it will all fall into place. It’s more like heading out on an adventure… blindfolded. There’s no outlined map showing you where you’ll end up after it’s all said and done. There are different twists and turns on your journey, and they all lead somewhere a little bit different.
The journey never really ends, it’s always moving, always taking us somewhere new. That’s the beauty of it, we’re never standing still, only moving forward.
Deep Down, It’s There. Trust It
You’ve heard that quiet whisper before, and deep down, you know what it’s saying. I know this because I’ve experienced it myself. That voice never truly goes away, because after all of these years it’s still that same faint whisper in the back of my mind. I’ve decided to go for it. I haven’t the slightest idea where it’ll take me, so all I can do is trust it. Trust my intuitive voice, and go with it.
It’s terrifying and unknown and uncertain, but trust it anyway. Listen to your intuition and see what it says. Grab hold and don’t let it go. It might just change your life.