Vulnerability And Social Media


I choose what I post on social media each day. When I wake up, I make the conscious effort to show my best self, my happiest memories, my proudest moments.

In my ongoing journey to love myself, I’ve not always been honest with social media. I have left out the not so picture perfect moments, fearing what the world might have to say about them. Moments where I’m fed up with my job and feel myself drowning in stress and frustration. Moments where I completely question who I am, what I’m doing- my self worth, my am I good enough moments.

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Being vulnerable is scary. It’s uncomfortable. It opens you up to judgement. But it’s also honest. It means something.

If I’m going to share my journey, it should be truthful and show every twist and turn, however ugly it may seem. No one is perfect, myself included. My self love journey all started because I felt like a stranger in my own body. I did not like the person who I was, and I couldn’t bear to accept the flaws I felt defined me. I was angry at the world and it was angry right back at me.

During a dark period of being consumed with self-hate, acting out with self-harm and feeling the strong urge to quit while ahead, I decided to do something differently.

Change. I desperately needed change. Rather than trying to change myself, I started working on changing the way I thought about myself. I wanted to look in the mirror and finally feel at peace with the reflection staring back at me.

This is why, for me, it’s so important to share these darker moments. We all go through them, whether we choose to show them or not. I’m not in any way saying we all need to show our true selves and reveal our personal tribulations along the way. This is something I feel I should do, in order to stay honest to my message.

How do you feel about your presence on social media? Do you feel you can be vulnerable through your social media presence? I’d love to hear from you!

 

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  • I wonder this all the time, too. It’s hard not to filter your life on instagram, but while I try to make my pictures as pretty as can be, my comments can definitely be a bit more real and reveal the vulnerabilities I have. I find balance is key. I appreciate the realness people have but that could just be what I’m drawn to.

    Juliette | https://namastaytraveling.com

    • Diana Maria

      Balance is key- you’re definitely right Juliette! I think realness is such a great quality and it’s something I look for online as well 🙂 xx

  • I try to be open on my social media presence, but also not put too much thought into it. I know it can be quite the slippery slope to give social media too much power in my life! Thanks for being so open and honest here.

    Much love,
    Ashley | dearash.com

  • I honestly feel a lot better by making myself vulnerable on social media. I’ve never been met with hate, only kindness, and social media really is a place for me to vent and talk about the good things alongside the bad

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I do too! It’s a great space to get out what you’re feeling, as long as it isn’t hurting anyone else it can be refreshing. Thank you for reading Stephanie 🙂

  • I feel very vulnerable about sharing what I blog on social media because I’m afraid that promoting my blog and having people that I know read my thoughts will cause people to think I’m weird or something.
    i do share “bad” moments sometimes, mostly on insta stories, especially if I am angry and want to vent something but not too often. I don’t think there is anything wrong with only sharing the beautiful good side of life on social media. we all need to spread beauty as much as we can in this cruel world. But I think you can still do this and be “real” at the same time.

    • Diana Maria

      I definitely know the feeling, it can be scary to post true and vulnerable things. I think showing what is beautiful is great as it keeps you in a positive space, and I also think sharing the other side can be beneficial too. Thank you for your comment Melanie! xx

  • Social media for me is whatever. I’m never really posting way too much; but with that being said, I am technically just on Instagram. No Facebook, no Twitter, no Snapchat… nothing else. I guess it just really depends on the person on what they choose to share on these platforms, you know?

    • Diana Maria

      I think so too! I stopped using Facebook as well, and may slow down on Snapchat because sticking to one or two platforms is so much easier and less time consuming if you use it less. It’s great you’re just on Instagram, that must be much less stressful xx

  • I feel everyone has a similar story to yours and are afraid of being too vulnerable on social media and it is understandable. I think you will have an instinct and you will just know what feel right to post and what does not, hope that makes sense.

    http://www.alifyalifestyle.com/

    • Diana Maria

      It definitely does, I think you’re right and we will know what feels right to us, we always do! xx

  • I love these photos, you look amazing! It’s really interesting, I always chose to show the happier side on social media as I found it did wonders for my mental health – I started seeing things in a more positive light because I was always looking for the silver lining to photograph or blog about. On the other hand, I’m also terrible at social media and I fully accept this about myself so don’t spend lots of time on there and so don’t feel the awful pressures so many people feel! xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Life, Travel, Italy

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you so much Lucy! I completely agree with you, I mostly post when I am feeling positive so that when I need inspiration, I can feel good about my feed and look back at it! It’s nice not to feel the pressures of social media, I’m glad you are able to feel that way 🙂

  • Thank you for such an honest and real post. The photos express your strength and choice. I definitely only post my best memories and pictures on social media in order to keep it as positive as possible.
    http://www.fashionflurry4.com

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you for reading! I too like to keep my pages as positive as I can 🙂

  • RoisinsLatest

    What an eye opening post. I guess I use different social media for different things – Instagram is where I attempt a ‘picture perfect’ life whereas Twitter is much more real life and random thoughts 🙂
    http://www.roisinslatest.blogspot.co.uk

    • Diana Maria

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post love! I agree, different platforms can be used for different representations of ourselves 🙂

  • I think we all in a way feel afraid to appear vulnerable on social media. After all, it’s the place where we often showcase our best selves and try to ignore the flaws. I love how you wrote this post and how you stated that you didn’t change your body but you changed the way you thought about it and looked at it. That’s what a self-care is all about and I do hope that more and more people, especially young girls, will start seeing things this way. We don’t need to change, we need to change the way we think 🙂

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you Leta, I think so too! It is the place we showcase our best selves, I think showing the flaws at times can be refreshing and eye opening. Thanks for stopping by love xx

  • Michael

    May I step outside the lines for a moment ? I do not think it is a good idea to allow social media to define you in any way. I think it is important for everyone to define who they are to themselves. Here’s what I try to do when meeting someone for the first time. I don’t care what you look like, I don’t care if you are different. I love if you are articulate, if you challenge me. If you have hard opinions and the ability to present them. Make me think, make me question what I believe. Trust that is what I intend to do with you. Life becomes interesting then.

    • Diana Maria

      Thank you for stopping by Michael, I really appreciate your comment! I agree with you, social media should not define us and balance is definitely needed 🙂

  • Kim

    Social media has always been really difficult for me to use because I get easily exhausted from showcasing my “best self” all the time, which is why I usually have long breaks from Instagram and I haven’t signed onto my personal Facebook in years. I don’t know how to overcome the fear of being vulnerable, but I think it’d probably help me lose some of the anxiety I have with social media!

    Kim / Simply Lovebirds

    • Diana Maria

      It can be really exhausting at times! I hope you do allow yourself to be vulnerable at times with social media, I’ve found it helps me with my negative feelings towards it! xx

  • Stephanie Eiler

    Social media can definitely be draining and cause so much anxiety. I have been trying really hard to take breaks from it and not check it so often, which is so difficult with trying to promote my blog. I appreciate your honesty with this post and can totally relate. I love your idea of changing the way you feel about yourself. I need to work on this, too. We are who we are and we should LOVE ourselves and see ourselves how others see us. Thanks for the thoughtful post!

    • Diana Maria

      I have had the same issue- it can be so conflicting when you want to take a break but also want to promote your work! I’m really glad you enjoyed Stephanie xx

  • Yesbabyonline

    Thank you for such an honest and real post. The photos express your strength and choice. I’ll follow you!
    http://www.yesbabyonline.com/